Eric and I say over and over again that when a man likes you, it s obvious. (That phrase was even the title of the first chapter of our book. You analyze the texts, you replay your interactions with him over and over in your mind, you cling tightly to the compliments and kisses and are more quick to part with some of the red flags and bad signs. When you add emotions (and a bit of ego) into the mix, it can be hard to see things clearly. Instead, you re seeing the situation through a lens of wishful thinking and sometimes a bit of self-deception. Trust me, I know how confusing and frustrating it can be at times but the fact remains that, it is obvious especially when you know what signs to look for. If you re at a party, he comes up to you and strikes up a conversation. If you re not in the same immediate vicinity, he reaches out to you.
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Finding an excuse to talk to you doesn t require much creativity. If he wants to get your attention, he ll think of something. If a guy likes you, he might ask you for things he didn t necessarily need to ask you, or start a conversation he didn t need to have with you. Maybe his company is hiring and he asks if you know anyone looking for a job, or he knows someone looking for a roommate and he asks if you know anyone, or he asks if you have any recommendations for a place to take his parents for dinner. When he wants to get your attention, he ll think of something, even if he just makes it up.
If he doesn t demonstrate any interest in talking to you he doesn t initiate or maybe he cuts the conversation short and makes an exit then it s a clear sign he probably doesn t like you in that way. Initiating is only phase one, though. If a guy likes you, he will take it beyond that and actually ask you out. If he doesn t, then he may just see you as a friend, or maybe he s interested in hooking up with you but he s not interested in dating you. If a guy likes you, he will usually ask you out and make an effort to be with you.
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(For more on this, read . )When we like someone, we can t get enough. We want to know every detail, every story, even the insignificant ones. If a guy asks you a lot of questions about yourself and your life and shows a genuine interest in who you are and what you like, he is investing in you. You ll get further confirmation of this if he remembers the things you told him:
where you went to high-school, your major in college, the name of your first pet. He will also want to share himself with you. You may notice he talks about himself a lot (especially the good parts, like areas where he is succeeding). This is because when a guy likes you he wants to impress you, he wants you to think highly of him. Now some guys might just do this because they have fragile egos and something to prove.
So watch out for guys who only talk themselves up. But if a guy shows a serious and genuine interest in learning all about you, then that is a big sign he likes you. A guy might come across all slick, but his body language can tell you a lot about how he really feels. Mirroring is one way to assess if he s into you. If you notice that he mimics your body language, it means he s trying to connect to you and is completely focused on you.
Other body language cues to look out for is if he leans in when talking to you, points his feet towards you, and maintains eye contact. Usually when guy likes you he’ll give you that deep penetrating stare, it s the kind of thing that you just know when you see it.