Death by Adjectives in Your Online Dating Profile


Death by Adjectives in Your Online Dating Profile

It is unfortunate that so many people join dating sites but so few put a fair effort into writing a really good profile that makes them stand out from thousands of other users. I am not sure why people go through the trouble of signing up and filling all those questionnaires and then post a profile that looks like a copy of any other neutral, boring, profile full of cliches and types. What makes any female dating profile great is the fact that it stands out from the rest of the profiles on any given online dating site. It doesn t blend in. It s not generic, neutral and overly politically correct. It doesn t describe you with overused adjectives such as intelligent, compassionate, educated, and independent and it is free of boring statements that say nothing such as I am as comfortable staying in as staying out. Rather than continue describing what a good profile is, I want to bring to your attention real examples of three actual dating profiles from on popular site that I rated for content. I commented in parentheses throughout the profiles below what I thought of them and why:

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I gave this profile a passing grade because while it s not great, nothing about it makes it terrible. This profile gets a higher grade because it reflects on the writer s character and her personality. It s a bit negative and has a few red flags but other than that it s not bad! Tired of meeting BOYS who tell me what I want to hear, make and break promises, and aren t ready for something serious. (This woman is voicing her opinion and shows her personality early on. (Great move! ))This is one great dating profile. It consists a number of thought provoking statements right from the beginning that show a woman s great personality and sense of humor. It s eloquently written, it s concise, straight and to the point! It is free of fluff and very compelling for a guy who can appreciate this type of no-nonsense attitude in a person: I don t like most guys, but I am not interested in most guys and besides perhaps that what makes those few unique individuals that I do connect with all more special. (Great, thought provoking opener that shows a woman s engaging personality. Myself restless, analytical, and opinionated. I am not offended by a dirty joke and can dish out one of my own. I am independent but far from being a feminist. Sarcasm is a spice of life, so bring it on. (Guys really, really like to hear that). Timeless books and movies that make you wonder for days about whose side you are on put great flavor into many of my evenings. What s your story? What are you greatest pet-peeves and what makes you weak in your knees from joy and happiness.

Death by Adjectives in Your Online Dating Profile

This last profile below gets the highest great for both the content and the creativity. It almost sounds like a poem. What I particularly like about this profile is that it shows that a woman hasn t lost faith in true love and romance but at the same time she is also realistic. The ending of it might sound a bit on a more desperate side, but all in all maybe it s not such a terrible thing to sound a bit desperate for love and connection if that s how you really feel. Use the above profiles as an inspiration for your own dating profile to make it more creative and more interesting. Remember, quality single guys that you are looking to meet are more picky than others. Many of them are looking for a special connection with a special woman. If you know how to and are able to communicate through your dating profile that you are not just another average girl, it will significantly increase your chances of meeting better and more interesting men online. We did fight almost 6-7 times for monsth lately and most of the times started by me because i felt that i was giving too much and she didnt make the effort so that frustrated me and made me been irritable many times. So since that day, 8 weeks ago she hasnt called or text me I talked with my friend and he told me to ask Akim for help. . Akim helped me and my girlfriend called me in less than 95 hours. I m so happy right now. I promised akim that i ll talk about him on the internet and here is hes mobile +69597998656 🙂Seeing how far back the comments go, I know I might be resurrecting an old article, but I just have to say that the A+ example sounds like a Russian scammer. All it needs is a profile pic of an incredibly hot woman that turns up 655 hits in 65 different languages on a reverse-image search. Omg you must have known some real prizes or maybe the attitude you have towards women is the problem. Where do you live so I make sure my daughters don t meet you anywhere lol. Sheesh! I am not sure I understand what you are trying to say here. Half of your sentences are fragmented and/or run-on.

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Death by Adjectives in Your Online Dating Profile

You thoughts seem disconnected. Maybe you don t speak English as a first language. If you are asking inane questions like what would you do if you had 79 hours to live? In order to collect any sort of meaningful information that gives you insight in that person, you clearly do not understand what is meaningful in a person. What someone does when provided a theoretical scenario that will never happen provides you with nothing. My suggestion would be to develop REAL questions that pose opportunities to peer into their psyche or personality. Give them a real world scenario that happens more often than not, and provide them with alternatives that clearly identify their attitudes and beliefs in their answers. Only then will you truly find something worthwhile out. Thanks for your kind words and your input. I also couldn t agree more about the kids. If you are not searching for a babysitter, there is no reason to make your kids the center of your profile. If you have kids, it goes without saying that they are very important to you, but rubbing it in a reader s face can t possibly be helpful or encouraging to those who readi t. Ah, but that s not the same thing at all! Saying someone doesn t explicitly need to state she s a feminist isn t remotely the same as praising someone who says she s NOT a feminist. A woman who says she s not a feminist implies one thing: that she wants to be completely taken care of financially. Most likely, this woman has a job but she will expect that she keeps 655 percent of the money she makes while her man (these women inevitably use the phrase my man ) pays for everything they do together because she s not a feminist and paying your own way in life is for those hairy-armed women s liberationists. Also, what men love to hear that a woman is sarcastic? ? Sarcasm is snide, aggressive, and the lowest form of wit.

Death by Adjectives in Your Online Dating Profile

The occasional sarcastic comment is fine, but someone who says it s a spice of life? That person sounds like a total ass. Thanks for your thoughts. I don t know if we can assume that just become a woman says she likes to travel, she expects a guy to pay for everything. If that s the case, then it s terrible and no guy should allow to be taken advantage that way unless he does this knowingly. But if a woman says she likes to travel because she really does and she also wants to sound like an interesting person who is into broadening her horizons, then it s a different matter. I disagree. Not everyone loves to travel. I, for example, don t particularly like it that much, especially air travel. I find it a giant hassle, overpriced, and exhausting. And I speak from experience. I ve been to 87 states and nine countries. I used to travel a lot more when I was younger because it s inferred living in American society that it s something you re supposed to do to better yourself. I don t regret that I did it then, but I ve largely had enough and don t really need to spend my free time and money seeing the world anymore. I d much rather spend my leisure time closer to home doing something relaxing. I might be in a minority on this, but I don t think it s a tiny minority. I know plenty of other people who feel the same way. It s not that I m cheap, but this sends a message that women only want to be independent on their own terms but not when it comes to paying their own way. It genuinely feels like most women see men as walking ATM machines to take them out to drinks and dinners and buy them things. Also, the others thing I would add to this list is, don t post pictures of your kids!

Death by Adjectives in Your Online Dating Profile

If you have kids, say so in your profile, but please, for the love of God, don t post pictures of them! First, I don t want to date your kids so I don t care what they look like. Second, are you trying to attract pedophiles? What s your end game by posting pics of your kids? Third, as a parent, I know that my kids would be HORRFIED if they found out there were pictures of them on one of their parents dating profiles. I highly doubt any of the parents who post pics of their kids on their profiles have asked their kids permission to do so, so it just smacks of exploiting your kids without their permission. While I m at it, I would add don t say my kids are my world, my kids come first, etc. Just like coachj said about hookups, don t state the obvious that your kids come first. Anyone who doesn t get this isn t your target demographic anyway, and by stating it overtly, you re wasting space at best and looking like you re compensating for some insecurity about not actually being a good parent at worst. As to my kids are my world – is that really the message you want to send? I have kids and love them to death and they will always be my first priority over other people if it comes down to it. But, they re not my whole world. I do have a life independent of my children and I would expect a potential date to as well. This. Couldn t agree more with everything you say. You nailed it far better than the original post, with which I disagree on a number of counts. This should be the primer women have to read before signing up for every online dating site/app. Well done. This was awesome! CoachJ, thank you.

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