Self-esteem isn t an essential need like food or water, but it s a supplement that can either dramatically improve your life, or keep you stunted and unfulfilled. The fact is, you can only let in as much love from the outside as you feel on the inside. If you don’t feel good about yourself, you will never truly believe that someone else can love you and you will constantly be on the lookout for the other shoe to drop, for the guy you care about to leave, thus validating the fact that you are unworthy of love. Self-esteem doesn t come from blowing kisses to your reflection in the mirror or repeating I love myself over and over. It takes time and it takes work and it isn t always easy. She may obsess, analyze, and replay every interaction in an attempt to uncover what she did wrong. She may know on a conscious level that it simply wasn t a match, but deep down she holds on to the destructive belief that she was the problem…and that she is unlovable and the guys. Confident women know what they will and will not accept and don t allow themselves to be pressured or guilted into doing things they don t want to do.
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They act in accordance with who they are and what they believe and don t cater their behavior for a guy, or do things solely to keep him interested and happy. People with low self-esteem don t trust their judgment, don t trust their gut instincts, and are afraid of being wrong. As a result, they either live their lives in a constant state of anxiety, or they look to others to guide them along the right path. This obviously does not do much to help one’s sense of autonomy, which is also a key element of healthy self-esteem. A woman who reveals herself gradually, carefully peeling back the layers over time, is significantly more attractive than a woman who lays it all out there.
When you feel that you are worthy, you don t need to tell people…they just know. A big mistake insecure women make in the early stages of dating is selling themselves to a guy. This can be completely innocent, but it comes from a deeper sense of insecurity and inadequacy. Confident women don t need to sell themselves rather, they use dating as a means to determine which guys are worthy of their time and affection. They realize that their time is their responsibility.
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And they don t blame their exes for wasting their time. They take responsibility for their choices, both good and bad, and use mistakes as opportunities to grow and become even better. Only insecure people put up with treatment that is unacceptable, in large part because they feel that that s what they deserve on some level. When you learn to value yourself, you will weed out anyone who doesn t truly value you. The fact is, if you don t feel good about yourself, nothing he does will ever (continued Click to keep reading )This is the best thing I have ever read regarding self esteem!
It was hard to read as I have low self esteem but I have been working on it for a long time. I have Had my heart broken a lot but I have always known it was my own problem that I had to fix on the inside. This has helped me so much and I m going to STRIVE to be like this! ! Thank you ❤️️❤️️❤️️❤️️❤️️Very good article.
I like the explanation of the 65 points ( to verify). Well done Sabrina. I m in sales, and see these points clearly help me to review my way working as well. I m of the opinion that there are only very few issues that are gender specific. By and large, most of the issues apply equally to both.
So, I eagerly read both classified articles! Isn t it ironic that the article said the first thing confident woman do in dating that they don t questioning the man like her or how he sees her.