Meeting guys and having guys interested in me is not a problem. I don t want to sound arrogant, but I m in good shape and everyone tells me how pretty I am so I don t doubt my physical attractiveness. Here s the thing: There is a guy I see a lot (he s a friend of a friend) and I ve developed a crush on him. I was trying to find out if he was into me and a friend of mine quoted him saying that I was a cool girl, but not his type. I really like this guy I want to understand why he doesn t like me and if there s anything I can do to get him to like me and see me as a romantic interest. OK, before I even begin talking about why a guy might like you or not like you, just remember that you really don t KNOW what he said or how he really feels. All you know is something a friend told you he said.
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But here s a common problem I hear from women and men about their dating lives: They can get the ones they don t want to fall head-over-heels in love with them, but when they find someone they want, they fail miserably. It really doesn t matter how good you are with getting people who you don t want to lust for and adore you You don t want them, so they really aren t options anyway. The real issue here is what is the problem that wanting is causing? In other words:
If you can have the ones you don t want wrapped around your finger as love slaves, then something about you wanting someone is what s causing the real problem here. He s out of my league / I m not good enough for him Mindset is everything in dating. When you BELIEVE and ASSUME that you are irresistibly attractive and that a man (or any man) wants you hardcore, it often comes about. Thing is, sometimes women make identities out of their problems what starts out as a quirky, lighthearted complaint keeps getting repeated until it suddenly becomes their reality and they believe that this is out of their control. But you need to step up and stop programming your mind with garbage.
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If you ve been falling into the trap of telling the only-the-ones-I-don t-want-want-me sob story, STOP IT and never do it again. Instead, start brainwashing yourself into this belief: The ones I want the most will find me irresistible and they want me, hard. Now, you may say, Eric, even if I repeated that to myself a thousand times it would still not believe it. Why not?
Think about it. There are tons of women even women who are married who have never experienced having men obsessed with them, chasing them, idolizing them you have. You have experience being a type of girl that the vast majority of other women don t have. So if you just stop telling that sob story to yourself and act and BELIEVE around those that you want using the same vibe as the ones you didn t want, then you ll get the same result. And the more in-demand a guy is, the more he s craving to meet a girl who actually feels like a worthy partner to him.
You re only not good enough when YOU decide that you aren t good enough. People can be funny animals at times. I ve known girls that would obsess over guys chasing, checking their texts, etc until he started liking them back or showing signs of commitment. These girls loved the chase. They loved the notch on the belt.
But most importantly, they loved the reassurance to their ego having their prize like them back validated them as being good enough in the world. I m not here to judge, but if that s your mindset, then I think you re best course of action is to really examine yourself and see if you have an issue becoming vulnerable to people or opening up.