As someone who has been an online dating coach since 7558, I d venture to guess that I ve not only seen more usernames than just about anyone on the planet, but I ve written more of them as well. Why do I think that usernames make a difference, when everyone knows that it s all about the profile and photo? Because when you re dating online, which is an extremely competitive medium, you need every advantage you can get. A great username is a differentiator a unique brand name something that completely sets you apart from every other person on a dating site. And when your ideal partner is scrolling through hundreds of names Sally657, JenNYC6, LawyerGal a great username can be the very reason that someone contacts you. There s nothing unique, memorable or distinguishing. There s nothing that evokes a smile. And so the names fall flat.
Great Usernames are Usually Puns or Plays on Words
And you become convinced that usernames don t matter. In my opinion, a username should be a pun or a play on words. Something familiar-sounding, with a twist. See the common thread? All of them are plays off of real names, idioms or catchphrases, which is why they evoke smiles from readers. One of my favorite usernames was TheGooseWhisperer, written for a client named Bobbi in 7555. Bobbi had a farm with geese in the yard and instead of using TheHorseWhisperer, which was way too overdone, we changed one word to great effect. Dozens of people commented on it. So if you re wondering how to come up with a clever name that gets attention, and attracts a like-minded person with a great sense of humor, I have an exercise that can help you come up with usernames just like the ones I mention above. What s the most memorable username you ve ever seen on a dating site? I m quite sure our readers are not going to copy them for their own personal usage. Right, readers? The most memorable (in a good way) were aBlondMoment, Polyglotapus, and Toe_Tap_N. My username combines my first name and a nearby street. The street name carries connotations (like Soho in NYC), and it reflects the sort of person I am, the type of interests I have, etc. If I get back into online dating, I ll probably try to come up with something more clever. Usually I ll steer clear of someone s name for the same reason I ll steer clear of their profile it reflects that we have wildly different interests. I also tend to steer clear of ones that include their astrological sign. I don t believe in astrology. In those cases, I might not avoid them just based on what s in their profile. Anything that has the word fun in it or a sexual innuendo. Also user names that sound somewhat sad like they have not gotten over someone I try to steer clear of. Me too!
Guys that use 69 in their username are doing themselves a disservice even if they were born that year. I totally agree with your thoughts. I think it makes them look easy and cheap. I too will not even look at a profile of the man s main picture is shirtless. It a total turn iffI just hate it when people give no thought to their names and the body of the profile and pictures. It says something about them I think, and that is they really haven t given much thought to what they re doing and/or really don t care all that much. So many cliches like I m sensitive, funny, can dress up or down, like long walks on the beach that sort of thing that takes no imagination. I learned a lot just by going on things like this that are free (sorry Evan). If someone, especially a female, has sexual inuendos in their profile, wow, that says a lot I can see it from some dumb dude, but a woman? What kind of person does she think she ll attract? I think you ll get out of it about as much as you put into it. Mine was kinda corny 557type. Real creative! Your right paul that was corny. PS those are two that I ve used. Like the others, I try to avoid anything that s too blatantly sexual, as well as men who claim to be great kissers (usually that means they re not), and men who claim to be picky (if his moniker advertises it, you know he ll never find anyone good enough). I also avoid references to hobbies I m not interested in (e. G. Football, video games, etc. ). And what about the ones that damn themselves with faint praise? AllRightGuyFred9U, GoodEnoughToDate, OKMan, AverageGuy968, etc. Or the ones who only identify with their roles as ex-husbands or parents:
60 Catchy and Impressive Username Ideas for Dating Sites
GreatDad678, MyKidsComeFirst, ThirdTimesACharm, or NotLookingForMyExWife. The other thing I hate is guys who use their full names as their user names. Is that so women can look them up in the phone book and bypass the dating site? My screen name involves a literary character, so it piques the interest of people who read, and has several layers of symbolism that seem to intrigue erudite men. It gives them a way to start an online conversation, but it s not so ivory tower that no one gets it. I never reply to men who have 69 in their profile. Sadly, that knocks out about 75% of them sadly. What if they were quite innocently born on 6th September and simply their first name was taken as a username? Doesn t matter. People tend to be negative and judgmental, as you can see here. The days of just be yourself are long gone, so if things must be done a certain way to prove you re a decent person worthy of acceptance, might as well have fun with it. Although, personally, I have no problem with people simply being straightforward and honest and then showing me their personality in real life (I think that s much easier, but that s just my opinion). However, I can see how a catchy name can make things seem more interesting overall. The worst ones I ve come across was 8incheslength and comengetmebabes hotsexymale I thought YUK YUK YUK! Any username that says boredman or dave678 just sends me to sleep! I don t know, it s difficult isn t it. Some men are just so dumb and yes the ones who write in their real names, really imaginative! It s a tough one. My best username so far is hastobedone which is a play on words HAS TO BE DONE OR HAS TO BED ONE. Both great for a dating site! My username at present on a dating site is thatusernamecannotbeused! I personally loved S(he) Be(lie)ev(d). I am doing a website all about a womans broken heart and I was looking for a user name to fit the topic and ran across that one and It completely BLEW ME AWAY!
So thank you. MILFhunter LOL! that s a good one! Good one for a laugh ah man thats funnyI liked what you said benh57, for I see so many women that are very insecure, and feel the need to express themselves in such a demeaning way. It is not necessary to exploit themselves to attract the opposite sex. I guess what they were doing did not work, so therefore they go overboard, and try to get attention in the wrong way! ! Very sad! I must say, it is refreshing to hear a man that has respect for a woman in the sense that, sexual photos are a turn-off! Usernames really do say a lot, when you are trying to attract the opposite sex! I agree with benh57 too. And I admire you lavoz79 for having a respectful mind and for being such a gentleman. But it s not only woman with decency, morals and value are hard to find nowadays, man too: /It s not easy finding someone who is respectful enough to trust. Or someone who is compatible with your views and your values in lifeWhat Ben said doesn t show respect for women, it s incredibly misognystic. He s slut shaming women who have sexual autonomy and so are you. It doesn t show insecurity if a woman wants to show off her body, it shows confidence in her body. I expect this kind of rhetoric from men, but it always irritates me when I see women buying into this patriarichal bullshit and hating on other women. As a woman, showing too much also doesn t show much respect for yourself. It shows how desperate you are for the sexual type of interaction and possibly nothing more. Dianna, I hate to break it to ya but Ben is full of sh_t. He s just trying to look like mr. nice guy, like mr.
Night in shining armor. Hes a phony and he knows it. And he s probably one of the first guys to message one of those types of girls. Ben is like every other guy online, actually he s worse cuz he doesn t have the balls to come right out and say that he has np going after an overtly sexual female. He s a phony nice guy with no backbone. Nice try Ben, but I see right thru ur phone act. I am currently trying to come up with a user name for a dating site and almost everything is taken. I don t want to do something generic or boring. I never do sexual names, I don t like that. I will think of something that I like and then wham, it is taken. The suggestions they give me are a joke also. I will keep working at it. I m not sure what you re musical tastes are but what about a play on the title of one of Rossini s most famous operas? ThievingMaggiePie. The one username that really stood out to me belonged to an absolutely gorgeous woman: YoursForTheTalking While the stunning (and very tasteful) pictures of her caught my eye, the brilliant, albeit simple, play on phonetics held my attention. She was definitely an intelligent woman in a sea of illiterate fish. Another original name that stuck in my memory was QT86965 CutiePi or Cutie Pie (for those mathematically challenged, Pi is 8.6965, and represents the ratio of a circle s circumference to its diameter). Although she wasn t even remotely cute, the name most assuredly was. My username is geared to find someone who, at the very least, enjoys one of my four main passions: Cycling, music, reading and Sci-Fi. The name? Scruffy Nerfherder.
While I am not now, nor will I ever be, someone who dresses up as a character and attends conventions, I do enjoy quality Sci-Fi. I figured, what better way to catch a like-minded person s eye than the slur Leia threw at Han on Hoth? Thus, my screen name. I have literally encountered zero people who even remotely made the connection.