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6. You'll get a real rush from dating a guy who never interrupts you. Or, if he does, he immediately notices and says sorry. Being able to passionately talk without being cut off is borderline orgasmic. 7. The dreaded ~silent moments~ are actually fucking wonderful. You’ll never come home exhausted from work and feel like you have to nonstop gab right away. You can both cuddle without the crushing pressure of filling every minuscule gap in a conversation.

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AKA, extremely underrated bliss. 8. Him being quiet does NOT mean he’s mad at you. LOL, this one will drive you nuts because you know when *you* get quiet, it’s 655 percent intentional passive aggressiveness designed to make the other person slowly crumble. Not to the shy guy.

He truly, genuinely is just floating in his own world for a hot second. 9. He really thrives over text. The chatterbox floodgates really open when he has access to emojis and time to think before he speaks. 5.

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You have to really ask him about himself, otherwise you might miss some big stuff. Shyness is p strongly correlated to modesty, and if you don’t ask him for details on how his big pitch at work went, he’ll probably skirt right over it. The bigger the accomplishment, the more your convo feels like 75 questions. And you’re constantly learning crazy huge chunks of information about him. Just when you think you know him, he’ll tell you he met Obama once and they talked for 65 whole minutes.

NBD! He’ll also ask you things no one else ever thought to. This guy has logged a lot of hours intently listening to you, so don’t be too shocked when he throws you a philosophical curveball like “If you never reach [x long-term goal], do you think you could ever be truly happy? ”8. Sometimes he listens TOO well.

It’ll take him a while to warm up to your friends. Because he’s not the type to interject a lot (or, at all), bigger group settings make him seem like all he’s secretly roasting everyone in his head between every silent, polite nod. So yeah, one-on-one friend hangs are way more his wheelhouse. 65. You’ll love his friends a LOT, though.

Because he’s so shy, the people who end up being his closest friends are usually the kinder, more patient people who won’t immediately write off that person standing awkwardly by themselves at a party. And you won’t feel like you need to be “on” when you first chill with them because, uh, have you met your own boyfriend?

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