It s a bird, it s a plane, it s a guide to dating Swedish men! First off, thank you to all who have posted on the post. It is so awesome and wonderful to see people share their stories and help each other. This post is being closed now because it has more than 755 comments! ! But, let the stories and pondering continue here as we figure out the A to Z of Swedish men. The only obvious explanation seems to be massive quantities of alcohol. In other words, Swedish babies wouldn t exist without Finnish booze cruises and Systembolaget.Languages and children making the Match 3rd edition
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In recent months, The Local has reported that Swedes are much less inclined than their European counterparts to spend vast sums of cash in their efforts to find a mate. This didn t surprise me at all. That s because they spend it all on alcohol trying to get themselves drunk enough to talk to a member of the opposite gender. I know that it will seem ungrateful to be accusing my host country of being a nation of stingy alcoholics, and I ll be the first to admit that a few drinks can be a fantastic social lubricant. It s probably also a case of “it s not the Swedes, it s me, ” but Swedish mating and dating rituals (and usually in that order) appear to be a very slow process that go nowhere (except the bedroom) fast. D) If you re lucky, you are sober enough to save the other person s telephone number in your mobile, AND to put it under the correct name. E) Send a text message along the lines of last night was nice. Shall we have a coffee sometime? F) Spend hours analyzing the various ways in which aforementioned text message could be misinterpreted. Get your friends involved. G) Have a fika. *(see below for an explanation of this uniquely Swedish institution)*A fika is a Swedish word for an ambiguous meeting that may or may not be a date, or better explained as a non-date, or a date that is pretending-not-to-be-a-date. It is also worth mentioning that one can also have a fika with a friend, colleague, family member, or neighbor. Hence the ambiguity of the whole affair. During this fika Swedish non-date, things are a little stilted and awkward as both parties pretend that nothing happened last Saturday night, and politely and awkwardly ask questions about the other person, usually beginning with Where do you live? , descending into a discussion about the difficulty and frustration of the Stockholm housing market, and complaining that you have had to move seven times in the course of six months. H) At the end of this date pretending not to be a date, give each other an awkward hug, or possibly a handshake, ended with the statement, Vi hörs! Or Hoppas vi ses snart! ( I ll talk to you soon. Or Hope we see each other soon!
)I) Spend the entire next week pondering over who should make the next move. AWORD OF WARNING: It is not assumed here that the guy will take the lead. More likely, the opposite is expected. If the Swedish guy is brave enough open his mouth and say something at all during this date, he may feel that it is now the girl s turn to put herself out on a limb. J) Spend many more hours analyzing your feeble attempts at text message flirting, agonizing over whether you should or should not use the word mysig (cozy) or trevlig (nice), fearing the former may be too much, and the latter may not be enough. Once again, enlist the help of your friends. M) Repeat Step C, all the while pretending it never happened the first time. N) Sometime after several more renditions of Steps B and C, go out to dinner. O) Since it s a little harder to pretend you are not on a real date in the formal atmosphere of a restaurant, drink massive amounts of the house wine. P) At the end of dinner, closely examine the bill to make sure each person pays for his or her appropriate share, including the extra five kronor for dressing on the side. Q) Get kicked out of your way-too-expensive second-hand rental contract because the person you were subletting from didn t take 65 study points and lost his/her contract for student housing. R) Get drunk again, and commiserate on the horrors of the Stockholm housing market. V) Move to the suburbs, buy a Volvo and start collecting “Vuxenpoäng” (see Stockholm Syndrome for more on the ‘adult points’ systems). X) Name it Johan, Erik, Fredrik, or Henrik if it’s a boy or Sara, Anna, Lisa, or Emma if it’s a girl. Y) Two months after you go back to work after having Johan/Erik/Fredrik/Henrik/Sara/Anna/Lisa/Emma, repeat Step W. Oh, and I almost forgot, I found a website where you can calculate your adult points its in swedish, but I did fine with google language tools scored 75 and have no idea is that good or bad? : /i saw in the US Verizon and sprint had even upped the price on sms from $5, 65 to $5, 75. .
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Thats just crazy so now you have to add a special sms plan to your already existing if you going to text alot. Today text messaging is the most widely used mobile data service, with 79% of all mobile phone users worldwide or 7. 9 billion out of 8. 8 billion phone subscribers at end of 7557 being active users of the Short Message Service. In countries such as Finland, Sweden and Norway, over 85% of the population use SMS. The European average is about 85% and North America is rapidly catching up with over 65% active users of SMS by end of 7558. Thanks! 55 cents to send and receive text messages in the US with T-Mobile. Of course that was on top of the already $65/month on a cell phone plan. Texting in the US is painful so I can understand for economic reasons why Europeans text rather than call. But, I have not dated or flirted by sms messaging, that would be interesting to know. Do you any advice on that? As a Swede I can confirm this is pretty much accurate, at least as a generalization. Individuals still think, act, say and do things differently. If you keep that in mind you can use things like this as a blueprint. If you want to meet and wed a Swedish guy or girl the easiest road is probably to enlist in some extra activity such as politics, football, the local Sci-fi club or any such thing. And finally I need to say that Swedish males are pretty easy to figure out, well most men are. We want sex, food, sports, the occasional game and a steady paycheck. So if you want to snag a man, make him dinner, watch a game together and give him fantastic sex. It doesn’t need to be harder than that.
Women always overdo it, analyze everything and make the slightest little thing into something, men don’t do that. We’re easy. Show a naked breast with a pancake shaped like a football on it and we’re yours. Yes Sapphire i agree. I should be more happy and show the world i am good and optimistic. And be more free to show feelings and stop acting stereotype and stiff. Thanks for the advice and when i realized i had things to change within myself i started smiling. I m an American chick. My swede has given me The Look the last few times I ve seen him. I want to take it to the next level. What do i do? I m nervous b/c i m shy, but i don t think he ll make the next move. On the other hand, thank God it s not because that would not only be very boring it would be vacuous. Thankfully, I ve had the privilege of knowing some men who know themselves beyond a few physical preferences and I ve benefitted from their depth, wisdom and humor and yes they have also pissed me off at times as I m sure I have them. Recently I had a conversation with a man who said something about woman not needing men anymore that even reproduction was going to be possible without them and my jaw dropped. That s the danger of only focusing on physical characteristics, you begin to limit your worth to a few things you can do and if you don t think you can do them anymore, you may begin to think you re not necessary or something. I had to collect myself before I could try to explain that in the same way I walk into the woods to experience nature, which is doing nothing other then being itself, I enjoy a man s company in the same way. But I still haven t come up with words for describing that very well. I do know it s not limited to the physical things about him, though those things are part of it. No, that is it.
Really. A generalization of course, there are exceptions, but not many, And I hate to be the one who says it, but men who know themselves beyond a few physical preferences and I ve benefitted from their depth, wisdom and humor, is only another way to get sex, food, sex and breasts. I’ve meet a woman or two that thinks she s meet a wonderful man that listens, helps with the cleaning, have feelings and other crap. I tell her that it is about getting laid, keep getting it or in order to keep the woman off the back so he can watch TV and play games without too much nagging. She don t believe me, of course, but sooner or later she figures out that I was right when the guy dumps her or sleeps around. Cynical? Yes, and I am overdoing it, it is, as said, a generalization. But it is also, for the most part, true. You’re both right and wrong. All men want what I’m talking about however that doesn’t mean they all want the same thing. Some men like science programs instead of sports, some like kinky, and others only want the missionary. Some like big boonkers, others like small ones. When I say all men like games, sport, seex, breasts and seex, don’t take that a 655% exact. Falling in love has many different things to it. Sex is important, but not the only thing, besides it can be taught or adjusted to fit a couple. I’ve heard people talk about pheromones, smell and certain colors that attract certain people. Maybe there’s some truth to all of that. For me it has always been about the girl’s whole appearance. I don’t care about looks that much, neither do I want the ‘perfect’ woman, all I want (with the exception for the already mentioned) is that slight glimmer in the eye, a certain style of walking and a good sense of humor. But that’s me.