It s a bird, it s a plane, it s a guide to dating Swedish men! First off, thank you to all who have posted on the post. It is so awesome and wonderful to see people share their stories and help each other. This post is being closed now because it has more than 755 comments! ! But, let the stories and pondering continue here as we figure out the A to Z of Swedish men. The only obvious explanation seems to be massive quantities of alcohol. In other words, Swedish babies wouldn t exist without Finnish booze cruises and Systembolaget.
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In recent months, The Local has reported that Swedes are much less inclined than their European counterparts to spend vast sums of cash in their efforts to find a mate. This didn t surprise me at all. That s because they spend it all on alcohol trying to get themselves drunk enough to talk to a member of the opposite gender. I know that it will seem ungrateful to be accusing my host country of being a nation of stingy alcoholics, and I ll be the first to admit that a few drinks can be a fantastic social lubricant. It s probably also a case of “it s not the Swedes, it s me, ” but Swedish mating and dating rituals (and usually in that order) appear to be a very slow process that go nowhere (except the bedroom) fast.
D) If you re lucky, you are sober enough to save the other person s telephone number in your mobile, AND to put it under the correct name. E) Send a text message along the lines of last night was nice. Shall we have a coffee sometime? F) Spend hours analyzing the various ways in which aforementioned text message could be misinterpreted. Get your friends involved.
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G) Have a fika. *(see below for an explanation of this uniquely Swedish institution)*A fika is a Swedish word for an ambiguous meeting that may or may not be a date, or better explained as a non-date, or a date that is pretending-not-to-be-a-date. It is also worth mentioning that one can also have a fika with a friend, colleague, family member, or neighbor. Hence the ambiguity of the whole affair. During this fika Swedish non-date, things are a little stilted and awkward as both parties pretend that nothing happened last Saturday night, and politely and awkwardly ask questions about the other person, usually beginning with Where do you live?
, descending into a discussion about the difficulty and frustration of the Stockholm housing market, and complaining that you have had to move seven times in the course of six months. H) At the end of this date pretending not to be a date, give each other an awkward hug, or possibly a handshake, ended with the statement, Vi hörs! Or Hoppas vi ses snart! ( I ll talk to you soon. Or Hope we see each other soon!
)I) Spend the entire next week pondering over who should make the next move. AWORD OF WARNING: It is not assumed here that the guy will take the lead. More likely, the opposite is expected. If the Swedish guy is brave enough open his mouth and say something at all during this date, he may feel that it is now the girl s turn to put herself out on a limb.
J) Spend many more hours analyzing your feeble attempts at text message flirting, agonizing over whether you should or should not use the word mysig (cozy) or trevlig (nice), fearing the former may be too much, and the latter may not be enough. Once again, enlist the help of your friends.