Tough Love Patrick Allan 9/55/67 5: 55pm 655 Share to Kinja Go to permalink Image via Miramax and View Askew Productions. You’ve got problems, I’ve got advice. This advice isn’t sugar-coated—in fact, it’s sugar-free, and may even be a little bitter. Welcome to. This advice isn’t sugar-coated—in fact, it’s sugar-free, and…This week we have a man who fell for his lesbian friend. Oh, and they’re new roommates! Keep in mind, I’m not a therapist or any other kind of health professional—just a guy who’s willing to tell it like it is.Plenty Of Fish headlines Pua
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I simply want to give you the tools you need to enrich your damn lives. If for whatever reason you don’t like my advice, feel free to. Now then, let’s get on with it. There is this girl, and after we’ve been pretty close friends for a while, I realized I was attracted to her. Not wanting to just pine for her, and believing that I saw some signs for mutual attraction, I decided to ask her out. She first agreed to the date, then she wanted to wait for after the summer because she was going to be out of the country for a few months. While that wasn’t the best outcome, I thought it was best to give her space and see what happens when the summer was over. After she got back to the country, we decided to grab a quick coffee, where I told her how I still felt about her and wanted to take her out on a date. It was then she came out to me and told me she was gay. Obviously that was a bit of a surprise, but I respect her decision and obviously understand why she doesn’t see anything between the two of us. You did the right thing in being forward and asking her out, but I get the feeling she didn’t realize you were asking her out on a date. That’s probably why she agreed to it in the first place. Then, when she realized you were implying some sort of romantic meetup, she decided to push it back. Partly because she was leaving, partly because she wanted things to cool off, and partly because she wasn’t ready to come out to you—which is a big deal. Now, before we continue, heed my words: if you get anything out of this, FF, you need to know that there was no “decision” here. She didn’t decide to be gay to avoid going out with you. She’s gay because she is. It has absolutely nothing to do with you in the slightest! Zero, zilch, nada, goose egg!
So, the only choice of hers you should be respecting is her decision to be honest and tell you something so personal. Capeesh? Anyway, you’re still into her despite what she told you, and you also happen to be living with her. Oof. If that’s not it, you’re in a situation you’ll just have to wait out. Here’s the hard truth (you ready? ): you may always be attracted to her. That might not ever go away. But you can’t be with her Frustrated Fella, and there’s no need to be frustrated with yourself. This was all a basic misunderstanding that is getting blown out of proportion by your emotions, dude. Remember, this is probably super weird for her too. The more awkward you make it by avoiding her and acting all frustrated about the situation, the more uncomfortable she’s going to feel around you. I mean, of course she’s going to withdraw if you’re being all sad and pining around her! But while you wait for this to blow over, FF, there are a few actionable things you can do to speed up the process. Strike up simple conversations about day to day things, or talk about stuff you two used to talk about a lot. Avoid talking about this snafu if possible, but if it does come up organically, say it was stupid and that you’re sorry you made it so awkward. If you want things to go back to the way they were before, you have to act that way. The other thing you can do is jump back into the dating pool. If you want to move on, you kind of need to move on, you know?
Join an online dating service, hit up the bars or clubs if that’s your thing, or go talk to some single straight girls at a local event. Your friend might feel less awkward with you if she sees you going on dates. Online dating has made meeting people easier than ever, but that also means one little mistake can…You’re stuck in this rut because you want what you can’t have, Frustrated Fella, yet you have to see her every day. Change your environment a little, focus on what you can have, and look back at all of this as a funny story. You’ll be fine—she’s not “the one. ” If she was, she wouldn’t be a lesbian. That’s it for this week, but I still have plenty of blunt, honest advice bottled up inside. Tell me, what’s troubling you? Is work getting you down? Are you having problems with a friend or a coworker? Is your love life going through a rough patch? Do you just feel lost in life, like you have no direction? Tell me, and maybe I can help. I probably won’t make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, but sometimes what you need is some tough love. Ask away in the comments below, or at the address you see at the bottom of the page ( please include “ADVICE” in the subject line ). Or! I do not have time to respond to everyone just for funsies. ‘Til next time, figure things out for yourself. How to Handle a Coworker Who Dresses Inappropriately About the author Patrick Allan Patrick Allan Staff Writer, Editor s note: Here at AoM, we re big proponents of bringing back the traditional wet shave by learning how to (with a safety razor) or even (with a straight razor).
If you decide to trade in your multi-blade cartridge razor for the old fashioned variety, you may find yourself with an old piece of gear that has a lot of character and history, but is also a bit worse for wear. What do you do to bring it back to looking the way it did when Grandpa unwrapped it on Christmas morning? To answer that question, I asked the vintage shaving experts at, Matt Pisarcik Sebastian Sandersius, to provide AoM readers with some advice on how to get their old razors looking like new. The classic style of shaving is back. That s right, men everywhere are turning in their plastic multi-blade cartridge razors for sleek metal safety razors and some are even going for straight razors. And who can blame them with the price of new multi-blade cartridges going for around $9! A straight razor can last a lifetime and double edge blades for safety-razors cost around 75¢ a pop. Frugality isn t the only issue though it has been argued countless times that you can actually get better shaves doing it the old fashioned way. There are even a few manufacturers today still making vintage style safety razors: iKon, Merkur, Mühle, Parker and Pils just to name a few. While these modern manufacturers exist, many men are discovering the fun of using a vintage razor made decades ago. When looking for classic style razors to shave with, the first thing you may ask is, “Where do I find these old things? ” The answer could be closer than you think. Your uncle, father, or grandfather may have old razors from days gone by that have been hidden away in a bathroom cabinet, just waiting to be rediscovered. However, if you don’t have luck there, try antique stores, online auction sites and even online stores specializing in vintage shaving products. You may have thought that antique stores were only for old Chinaware or furniture, but they can very well be a treasure-trove for vintage shaving gear. These are usually great places to find a vintage razor just waiting to be put back in service. Also be sure to ask one of the antique dealers if they have any shaving items, as there are often razors tucked away somewhere in the store. If you’re lucky enough to come across some old razors, take note that not all finds are worth purchasing, of course. Over the years, several manufactures made many different types of safety-razors and blades.
This brings us to the next important thing to consider You are looking for a razor that you likely want to shave with, so most importantly you re going to need to know if blades are still being produced for your find. Fortunately, there are three major types of blades still made and widely available for vintage shavers. 6) Double edge blades which are mostly for razors branded Gillette. 7) Single edge blades which are mostly for razors branded GEM, Ever-Ready, and Star. 8) Injector blades which are mostly for razors branded Schick or Eversharp. The aforementioned brands are the ones you want to look for. Each of these models are known to give great shaves, but keep in mind that one may work better than another for certain men. Whatever you get, it is likely to be very dirty so now you need to know how to make it shave ready. So when you find an old razor at an antique store or via the web, it will likely be caked with disgusting old soap scum: You may be wondering how to get that razor looking new and shiny again. Thankfully with enough elbow-grease and some common store-bought cleaning products, most of your antique store finds can be brought back to great shaving condition. Here are some excellent products and simple steps to follow that will be incredibly helpful in making your razor sparkling clean: 6) Pre-soak the razor in some warm water and maybe spray it down with Scrubbing Bubbles to initially loosen up all the gunk. 7) Use a nylon brush and/or a brass brush to scrub off remaining gunk. Note that a brass brush with fine/thin bristles is particularly good for cleaning out knurling. Such a brass brush can be found in the gun cleaning section of your local sporting goods store. 8) Scrub the razor down with some toothpaste. Whitening toothpaste is particularly good for polishing up metal. 9) Dry the razor and use a cloth rag to buff it up with some metal polish. Note that Maas or Flitz metal polish are excellent for this.
5) Use some toothpicks and cotton swabs with some metal polish to clean the tight nooks and crannies. 6) Scrub the razor one last time with a nylon brush and some dish detergent.