And generally, that can happen in a year. You want to have some problems emerge and see how you deal with problems together. For me, it's more about the range of experiences that lend themselves to compatibility rather than the amount of time. Many couples wait until they are ready to have children, or ready to buy a home before they marry, Nelson says. There is no 'normal. ' Partners may have an implicit expectation of the length of an engagement, based on their family, their culture and their community. Sometimes this is different for each partner, and if it is not significantly discussed in a very explicit way, it can lead to misunderstandings. There is no magic time frame when a couple should date before the engagement, but the rule for any happy and successful marriage is to realize this—all couples go through a 'romantic love' phase.
This is natural and probably will last the rest of your marriage, or forever (the bad news). The good news—with conscious communication and planning, a successful marriage means that conflict is inevitable (it has absolutely no reflection on whether or not you are in a marriage that will last), but how you repair your conflict is much more important. Just engaged and ready to find your wedding style? Take our fun and we'll pull together a custom wedding vision that's perfect for you, plus the right vendors to bring it to life.