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It’s staying up at night and tossing and turning because you wonder how someone feels. It’s questioning if this is really something or is it all in your head. Anxiety is being excited about a date but thinking they’ll cancel last minute. It s staring at your phone waiting for it. It’s an ending that emotionally destroys you. It’s trying to handle it with grace and dignity but at the same time, you’re in tears wondering, when things changed and what you did wrong. It’s beating yourself up for it, even when you’re friends tell you, it was him not you. Anxiety tells you, no, it’s not that they were the wrong person, it’s that you’re flawed and not good enough.

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And you look at yourself fixating on things you wish you could change because that’s probably why it didn’t work out. Anxiety is striving for perfection even if it kills you. It’s stressing how to word something properly because you care but you don’t want to come on too strong. It’s the agony of waiting for a response as reread what you just said. It’s wanting to send a double text but knowing you shouldn’tIt’s the weight lifted off your chest when they respond but you still worry. It’s wondering at any moment, are they going to change their mind about me? It’s playing out that scenario in your head, just so you’re ready for how you’d respond to it. It’s caring but the insecurity of caring too much. It’s questioning and doubting, everything someone thinks, says and does.

It s is being everywhere on time and needing your partner to be the same way. It’s wanting things to go according to the original plan and getting upset when it doesn’t. It’s messing up and making a mistake and your immediate assumption is, they’re going to leave or dump you. It’s being unbelievably hard on yourself even though you’re the least judgemental person ever. It’s standing in a crowded room, holding his hand, as you meet his friends but all you want is for them to like you. It s trying too hard that they don t sometimes. It’s wanting to drink but worrying about drinking too much. It’s the apology the next morning you didn’t even need to say. Anxiety is explaining to your partner, this is what I thought, it’s completely illogical, I know but I need you to just tell me I’m wrong.

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Tell me we are okay. It’s that critical voice inside your head that you hear on repeat. Even when they compliment you, you don’t believe it at first. And they don’t understand why you don’t see yourself the way they do. But there’s something beautiful about teaching someone to see themselves through your eyes. Anxiety is the beauty and appreciation of someone really knowing you and accepting you because you still struggle to accept yourself. It’s watching them change the way they act or what they do, just to keep you more at ease. It’s the comfort in a simple phrase, I’m sorry I didn’t answer this is why… It’s a feeling of wholeness when they say, ‘I still love you, even with this thing WE have to live with. ’It takes a rare person to love someone with anxiety and it s not always that easy.

But if you can figure out how to, you’ll receive a love that is unconditional. You’ll be with someone who truly appreciates and accepts you. You’ll hear thank you too often and I love you even more. It’ll be a love that tests you and challenges you but it will make you realize some people are entirely worth it. Kirsten is the author of, a book of poetry about the experiences we struggle to put into words. Losing you would be like losing part of me, only it’d be losing the best part of me. Even if your voice is shaking, never stop asking for what you want. Kirsten s writings really touch me. It s like all the things I have ever thought of or wanted to say are expressed through her writing.

I resonate with so much of it. It s so deeply touching, moving, raw and just plain real. There were times reading I teared up because something said just went straight to my heart. I think I honestly highlighted almost the whole book! —ElizabethYou will not be ready when the love of your life comes along. You also probably won t be ready when you see the listing for your dream job or to buy a house or maybe have a kid or maybe quit that job and try to write the book you keep thinking about or get sick or lose a relative or die yourself. If you wait on the feeling of readiness you ll be waiting forever and worse, you ll miss the best of what s in front of you. These essays are slowly changing my life, as the title promises. As my friends birthday come along, they will all be receiving a copy of this wonderful book.


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