You can add to the conversation by adding your answer as a comment. The below question was sent in from a 67 year old girl from Virginia. Q: My Mom is dating again, and I m worried that she s trying to replace my Dad one. What can I do? Anonymous, 67The way i thought of it was that my mom dating was to make her happy and to get her mind off things. No one will ever replace your loved one in you heart. Your parent just has to have some fun time to get things off their minds.
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. ! Laura, 66My mom recently started dating, and it s really hard to adjust to. I never thought that my mom would meet someone else that she feels extremely passionate towards other than my Dad. I m happy for my mom, because the man that she s with is a widower, his wife died 6 year ago, and they re very happy. I feel that marriage would be a bit extreme at this point, but all I can do is be happy for my mom, because if she s happy, I m happy. Make sure that you re comfortable with the person that your Mom/Dad is dating, and if you feel a weird vibe off of them, tell your Mom/Dad. It may be awkward, but in the end it s the best. JuliaIt can be really hard to talk to your Mom/Dad about dating after losing a parent. If you have siblings, they can help relate to what you are feeling about the current situation. If you don’t have siblings a good trustworthy friend can help you as well. Just know that your Mom/ Dad is not trying to replace your loved one. They know that no one will ever fill that void. Joelle, 69Talk to your Mom/Dad if you are feeling like they are trying to replace your loved one. Parents can be a great source of answers and confidence. Timmy, 68My mom remarried two and a half years ago and to say the least, I was not very happy. I could tell my mom was happy though and so for her sake I pretended to be okay. My mom’s husband is a nice guy, but he’s definitely not my dad. I’m not very close with my stepdad but I’ve been trying really hard to stay closer to my mom. It’s not an easy transition when a parent starts dating again and there is unfortunately no formula to make it that way. Each situation is different, but make sure not to keep your emotions bottled up. Having someone to talk to, whether it’s your parent, a sibling, or even just a friend, makes a difference.
Candace, 68Your parents aren t trying to replace your loved one. You have to understand the fact that they don t want to spend the rest of their life alone, because before you know it, you ll be grown up and having your own life to deal with. So, it s not that their replacing them, and it doesn t mean they’re over the loss, but nobody should have to spend their life alone. Talk to your parent about it, and they ll tell you how they feel. Don t ever be afraid to ask about it, they may not want to talk about it at the moment, but come back at a better time and discuss it together, don t be scared to let them know how you feel. Deanna, 68My mom died two years ago and now my dad is trying to date and I don t want him to and if he gays married I will lose a lot of pro aligned like playing xbox whenever and I will have to share everything I have with her nees and nefu. This is how I feel when my mom started dating I felt alone and that I would not have anyone to talk to I would just keep everything bottled up and ready to pop then my mom started dating this one guy she was so happy I couldn t tell what I felt then after six months of dating they wanted to live together but I didn t want to go to a different school plus he had a Daughter she was nice sweet but I didn t want to leave so I talked to my mom and my older sister and they said that It would be a great thing but I kept thinking the were just making accuses but it turns out that everyone in the world does the same thing so now I am just trying to keep a positive attitude. I feel like my dad doesn t listen to me anymore like he is in a different dimension. Stuck in love world always listening to his wife/girlfriend they got together 6 months ago as u have heard my sister say and just like she said I practically have another family but I love them I love my brother my sisters and my stepmom its just a little too soon but that s how life is all we can do at this point is roll with the flow hope it works out! My parents got divorced about 9 years ago and it is really herd on me. I am 68 and I don t see my dad much so I really miss him. I feel like I need him more than ever now. My mom just started dating again and I feel like she is trying to replace him. It is really hard because I always fake a smile and sometimes I cry myself to sleep. My mom died when I was a 9 year old 8rd grader U hid all my sadness and I regret it now. My dad started dating a year ago and I ve never not once liked the person who he dates. Now we lost a lot of money. He is never home and has started taking down all of my moms pictures. Some want to write if your in the same shoes it would help me a lot? ? My mum and dad split up about 5 years ago during that time he went to a diffrent country but I still had contact with him also my mum was dating this guy that my sisters and brother never really knew and at first he used to just come for dinner and know he has his own key and since then my my has been going to parties and clubs and leaving my sisters and my alone till 7 or even 8 in the morning she never really took us out for a family meal she spends all her time with him and were just at home. When my dad came back I was very happy to see someone who accually cares about me here.
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Me and my dad sister and I bonded very well and my mum let him until my mum and my dad had and argument and she said to him that I should not speak, see or talk to him again but the argument didn t involve me. When they got divorced it wasn t the loss of my dad I felt but the loss of my mom. I am 67 what should I care that she dates its none of my business right? BUT I can t help it it bothers me. I want to be happy for her and supportive but I m just not. I guess I don t feel like her dating is coming from the right place. She is just experimenting her new life with out kids but just cause dad is gone. I mean we re still here. Mom died when I was two, I m 68 now. The other girls my dad dated were nice, but I knew it wouldn t last. It wasn t awkward around them. Now, he s dating this girl. She has two kids. We don t hang out anymore, and every time we talk it just turns into fighting. We re working all the time and when I try to hang out he just invites his girlfriend. I don t know what to do, am I just over reacting or am I onto something for feeling awkward around them? I don t hate her. I just don t know her. And he yells way too much when we talk about her. Heyy guys It took me three whole years and my mom has only Ben on one date but guess what! I stopped my mom! But my dad almost there I can just move on from him but I won t cuz I trust his selection I just hope he dosent y know do it U CAN DO IT!
I m all with u just remember you have a special bond with your parent that can t be brokenOh no my mom just said she was making out with a guy when she was talking to her friends I hate her now! This feeling just came to me like OMG! My mum has a boyfriend and they kiss a lot and it makes me nearves because for me its like she is replacing my dad + (i hate the sound of kissing). My mom is dating this guy named Rodney he is very rude and thinks he knows it all he doesn t like me I can tell but of course he would never say that to my mom but I don t want them to get serious. My mom knows that I don t like him I have done everything to get rid of him I moved out and said I wouldn t come back until they were broken up and she didn t care! What s embarrassing is that they are always all over each other and I hate it cause my friends see and it s embarrassing! Also my mom acts different in front of him she is rude and mean to me and when he s over she doesn t care what I have to say. (I don t get jealous I promise I just want my old mom back the fun and cool mom she use to be a couple of months ago! PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. : (My parents got divorced 7 years ago and they haven t really dated, but when I went on holiday with my dad I came back and it turns out my mum had been seeing someone, we met him and he is nice. But they spend lots of time together, and I just want my mum back 🙁 I am 67 and we are moving house and everything, (not with the man, just in general) and I just want things to go back to always, my mum is mine and no one else can have herHey, my name is Aimee. Im 66 and have 7 siblings. My father has been gone for nearly 7 years. Feels like the other day! It was a car collision. My mom never dated until recently. She sat us down and told us we were important to her and she wanted to be open with us. Then we get the big shock. She s going to start dating her coworker. She told us she wanted us involved and comfortable. So we found ourselves sitting at Applebees with this person.
Very awkward! He s very kind, though and respectful to all of us. I think he realizes we re a packaged deal! They ve been going out for 7 mos. When he comes to our house we all eat pizza, play games and watch movies. He s never alone with mom except for private dates in public areas. It s great that everything is open. We kinda feel like a family with him now. He also brought us someone. His sweeeeeet dog Lady. She really helps tie us together. I feel very lucky. My parents split up in 7566. My mom has had IT with 8/9 men already. Yuck! Now she is dating. She didn t tell me so i acted all moody for 8 days. She annoys me so much. Yesterday they went to hotel and had IT. I m so angry. I look through texts and I see her nickname for him SWEETNESS! Does she call me sweetness?
No. She asked what was wrong and I told her. She just finished talking to him on the phone. We r Christian but I am angry with her for having IT before marriage.