The thing is that online the game is different than real world dating. What you and I think of as polite can come off as needy to women. If you re anything like me, you read a woman s profile and think about the kind of person she is. Now you can t say that much about yourself in 555 words or less so we have to sort of fill in the blanks about the kind of person she is. We make assumptions about her based on what she says in her profile and the people we know in our life who are like that. By the time you write her a message, you have a picture of her in your mind, you might even feel like you know her a little bit and you re feeling some kind of connection to her. So you write her a nice note commenting on the things she s said in her profile, complimenting her, and telling her a little bit about yourself. Seems pretty damn nice to me, and this is EXACTLY what I used to write in my messages.
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The problem is, she doesn t have a clue who you are, she doesn t feel connected to you, she s never met you or seen your profile, and has absolutely no idea where you are coming from. Well, it has to let her know that you caught her attention BUT that you are NOT attracted to her.
So the first message you send her needs to get her to notice you and you have to do that without letting her know that you re attracted to her yet. A message like that makes you stand out from all the other guys who are falling over themselves to impress her.
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I came across this embarrassingly simple, tested and proven process for making women want me. That s all you need online.
Everything else is useless. But knowing exactly what to say to get them to come to you is everything.