There are many men and women who have a rule when it comes to dating someone who is separated but not divorced yet: they won't do it. Each person has to decide what is right for him or her, but I have an opinion on this subject. I personally think that one person who isn't divorced yet is very different from another person who isn't divorced yet. In other words, every situation is unique. So, don't be so quick to decline a date with someone who isn't divorced yet! You could be jumping to judgment too quickly and passing up someone who you really could have connected with. 6.
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E. They haven't moved on). Remember, there is a big difference between dating a person who is RECENTLY separated (meaning it just happened two months ago and their soon-to-be ex just moved out last week), and a person who has been separated and living apart from his or her ex for two years. With the economy the way it has been, I think divorces are taking longer because people don't want to sell their houses and/or spend money on attorneys. So, they figure if they can just come to an agreement between themselves, what's the rush to get officially divorced?
Furthermore, there are many people who have been divorced for years -- even decades -- who haven't moved on. This is where I'd have to recommend NOT dating someone who isn't divorced yet. If the couple is still in the same house, I think I'd have a problem with that. So maybe I'm being too judgmental. 8.
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The fear that the since the couple isn't officially divorced, they might end up getting back together. This is the worst reason NOT to date someone who isn't officially divorced yet. Why? Because ANY COUPLE can get back together at any time. Having a piece of paper that says you are divorced doesn't prevent a reconciliation.
I have a friend who has been dating a guy for a year and they are in love. The guy has been legally divorced for seven years and his ex wife was living with someone for the past two. The ex wife and the guy broke up, and now the ex wife is trying to get back together with my friend's boyfriend -- after seven years of having a divorce decree! I also have a friend who was married to a guy for six years. They have been officially divorced for five years.
A year ago, the two got back together and are now just dating but madly in love again and will probably get married again. The point is, every situation is unique. 9. The person hasn't gone through those feelings you go through when your divorce is final. That's true, but who cares?
That's temporary. My opinion is that for most people, by the time their divorce is final, they've been checked out for so long, that the only thing you feel is relief, finality and perhaps a little sadness, which lasts for about a day and a half.