For the love addict and codependent, Internet dating sites are the crack cocaine of romantic exploration. Although the love addict consciously wants true and lasting love, they are drawn to the exhilarating rush of new love. Their dream of being forever in love with a fated soul mate is inexplicably foiled by reasons that never quite make sense to them. It is as if they have a fuel tank that supplies the gasoline to a race car engine, but it only has a one-gallon capacity. Melissa, a 85-year-old codependent, and Jake, a 87-year-old love addict, were oblivious to their psychological afflictions. They felt like “regular” people who just wanted the all-American dream of true love. They were blind to their revolving door dating pattern, which they simply dismissed as a phenomenon of the modern Internet age of romance. To the Jakes and Melissas of this world, Internet dating is like a virtual candy store with the most tantalizing choices of yummy treats.
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With so many types of candy and so many opportunities to try them all, who could stop at just one? Analogous to the fantasy candy store, the Internet dating sites – thousands of them guarantee perfectly harmonious everlasting love, combined with steamy Hollywood romance. Love addicts hungrily rely on them to actualize their made-for-TV dream of true love. About three months ago, Melissa met Jake on one of the many free Internet dating sites. These were not just regular phone calls, but marathon calls that lasted for hours.
Melissa felt in her soul that Jake was the perfect man the man she had been looking for her whole life. Jake’s masculine and bold voice soothed her. His edgy and commanding nature made her melt inside. She imagined Jake to be a brave and confident man who could light up any room with his charisma and charm. Jake seemed to know exactly what he wanted, and had a story about how he always got what he wanted – or, as he would say, “grab any bull by the horns and make his life happen.
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” His apparent strength and dominant personality sent shivers up Melissa’s spine. It didn’t take long before they exhausted the exquisitely detailed telling of their life stories. Almost every topic took on a romantic and mildly sexual tone. It was as if they were strongly charged magnets whose opposite, compelling attraction was building up by the hour. Although neither tried to fight this irresistible magnetic force, they knew if they tried, it would have been futile no different than a guppy swimming up a raging river trying to mimic its salmon cousins.
Melissa and Jake met at a local restaurant. When they met, the electric charge of their shared chemistry sent a palpable shock though them both. Almost instantly, they lost control of their facial muscles. Neither could stop smiling nor their deep soul-seeking gaze into each other’s eyes. Both were blessed with beautiful faces upon which their eyes could feast.
When they would break eye contact, they found their eyes roving in the direction of the other’s much appreciated body contours. The emotional excitement of the date ran so high that neither had much of an appetite. Their thirst for wine went unimpeded. After the last bite of dessert was finished, Jake reached for Melissa’s hand. As soon as their fingers touched, a shock of sensual energy pulsed through their bodies.
Almost in unison, they summoned their waiter for the check. As Jake was paying the waiter, Melissa reminded herself that she was a good girl and would not with Jake on their first date no matter how she felt about him.