After all:, but the cold hard truth is that some aspects are set in stone. One of those is height and there are few other aspects that cause men as much dating agita as being short. If you re not 6 feet tall or taller, then you may as well just resign yourself to a sexless life of Napoleon jokes. Of course, short is relative what we consider average height varies depending on geographic locale and someone who s 5 6 would consider someone who s 5 9 (the average for American men) to be lucky. But hey, that s cold comfort when women are putting six feet tall, minimum in their dating profiles and your friends all call you Short Round. The thing is, as with many other masculine insecurities, this is predominantly in our heads. At 5 8, I m short for an American caucasian male. Worse, I m the shortest of all my friends who range from 5 6o on the short side, to 6 7 on the tall side.
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But my height has only been as much of a problem as I d let it be. Over the years, I ve dated and slept with women of all heights, ranging from 5 6 to six-foot tall amazons. The trick is understanding how to make height less of an issue. One of the worst things that guys can do to themselves is to get defensive about being short. Look, I get it: you ve been getting Oompa Loompa jokes since forever. You ve been called midget, Tiny Tim, Grumpy and all the other names. You watch women even women who re around your height pass you by to date taller men. Society tends to equate height with masculinity and power when you are lacking in one, you feel that people assume you re lacking in the others as well. You re understandably resentful about it. I completely sympathize with it. I have lost track of how many short men I have seen, online and in person, who are seething balls of venom and rancor over the unfairness of it all. There s a reason why short men are angry and Napoleon complex are stereotypes, after all. The truth is that barely-sublimated anger makes itself known in every aspect of your life. It bleeds into your body language and into the way you talk and relate to others. You may think that you re hiding it like the professional poker-player you could be, but in reality, that sour attitude is shining off you like an especially greasy halo. The other common mistake that the height-deficient make is assuming that they re rejected in advance. This pre-rejection theory quickly becomes either an excuse to not approach (thus guaranteeing that nothing happens) or colors the entire interaction (ditto). Approaching anyone, whether online or in person, with the attitude of I know you don t like me is going to kill any potential attraction, no matter how awesome you may be otherwise. A shitty attitude, whether angry and aggressive or defeated and negative, will nuke any chance of sex or love faster than telling them that you eat live puppies. The attitude that your height is a defect and nobody could possibly love a short man is attraction poison.
Is height an attractive feature? Yes, it is. But notice how carefully I said an attractive feature, not the. There is a world of men who are considered brain-meltingly, panty-soakingly hot who are also under 5 66. Jason Statham is 5′9″. Robert Downey Jr. is 5′8″. Daniel Radcliffe is 5′5″. Peter Dinklage is a goddamned sex symbol now because of the way he plays Tyrion Lannister. Yes, you re short. Yes, some people find height attractive. You know what s universally attractive? Confidence. The more you let your height (or lack thereof) bother you, the less attractive you get. A short man with confidence is far more attractive than a tall guy without it. Yes, for a while as you unlearn the bullshit that s been shredding your ego. That s fine. There are some people who can fill a room, regardless of how tall they are or aren t. They re the ones who stand out in people s memories, who can command attention (and affection) with seeming ease. One of the best things you can do especially as a short man is to. Presence is, simply, your ability to command people s attention.
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It s the way that you can make people focus on you instead of the distractions that surround them. As I m always saying: attraction isn t about looks,, and when you can make them feel like they re the only person in the world, you become magnetic. The best way to develop presence is to be present. OK, before you click the back button in disgust, hear me out. Most of us rarely give our full focus to somebody. We inevitably find our focus divided among the million little things that occupy our attention. But when we feel like someone is giving us their full, undivided attention it s amazing. They make us feel special. One of the reasons why Tom Cruise is so is because he can make anyone feel like they re the most fascinating person in the world. Simply connecting with them strong (but not intimidating) eye contact, open and relaxed body language, and instead of waiting for your turn to talk is absurdly powerful. When you can build presence, women won t remember you as that short man at the party. They ll remember you as that who made them feel like he got them in a way nobody else did. One of the mistakes that short men make is that they dress in ways that emphasize their lack of height. The last thing you want to cut yourself off at the knees ore, more accurately, at the waist. One of the reasons I tend to be remembered as being taller than I actually am is that I dress in such a way that flatters my physique and gives a more unified silhouette. First and foremost: embrace monochrome. One of the biggest mistakes that men make is to wear clothing with a strong contrast a white shirt, brown belt and blue jeans for example. The problem with this is that the sudden color change from white to brown to blue creates a visual interruption. The eye doesn t travel smoothly down your profile the sudden change cuts you in half, truncating your torso and skewing your proportions.
Instead, you want clothes that are relatively consistent in hue. They don t have to be perfectly monochrome you don t need to dress head to toe in black, for example but keeping things within the same color-scheme helps the eye track over your body without stopping. This is one of the benefits of suits the uniform color scheme helps create a unified silhouette. It s also important to and this means clothes that are cut close to your body. Straight-leg jeans, slim-fitting tees, fitted dress shirts these are all your friends when it comes to creating the illusion of height. Baggy clothing is clothing that hangs off of you, creating the impression that it s too large. The last thing you want is the kid wearing Daddy s clothing look which also makes you look shorter. Clothes that are cut close create a smother, sleeker silhouette which minimizes the visual cues that subtly imply a lack of stature. Yes, you may love your relaxed fit jeans but trust me: they re doing you no favors. But what about artificial height-extenders such as boots or lifts? I m not in favor of them to be perfectly honest. I had a pair of New Rock boots that made me a good three inches taller which felt amazing. But at the same time well, those shoes had to come off eventually and the women noticed that suddenly I was at boob-level instead of eye-level. A subtle lift one inch or less can be a confidence booster but honestly, it s just a shoe-version of Dumbo s magic feather. This one s gonna suck, but I have to be honest: online dating may not be the best venue for short men looking to meet women. There are many women who will make height especially heights of 5 9 and under a deal-breaker. One of the great things about online dating is also one of the biggest problems with online dating: we can screen for specific traits we want. The problem with this is that what we think we want isn t always what we actually want and we may well miss out on people we may otherwise be incredibly compatible with.
Online dating, sadly, doesn t allow for as many happy accidents as meeting in person. There isn t much of a way of getting around this, unfortunately people are allowed to set their standards wherever they wish after all. You aren t going to have any luck. The cold hard truth is that short men may want to make online dating less of a priority when it comes to meeting people. By all means, continue to do so make sure, message people who visit your profile and. But recognize that when you meet people in person, you have more of a chance to impress women with your wit, personality and charm all of which. That s the cold hard truth. Yeah, it kind of sucks. There will be some women who are especially vocal about it, and that can sting too. But you have to ask yourself: why are you going to want to date someone who s going to assume that your height means you have nothing to offer? It s a sign that you are incompatible right off the bat. Let s say that you, a short man of, say, 5 5, asks someone out and she out-and-out laughs at the idea that you thought you had a shot with her. Yes, that can hurt but come on: she s just shown you that she s an asshole. You didn t get rejected so much as dodged a fucking bullet. Why, in pluperfect hell, are you worried about what an asshole thinks? These women, in may ways, haveBut part of the point of dating and approaching isn t to weed out assholes, it s to find cool women who do want to date you. So who should you approach? One of the first things you should consider is dating women close to your own height. The less of the difference in height, the less of an issue it tends to be.
Considering that the average height for women in the US is 5 8, the odds of finding someone your height or shorter are on your side.