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We no longer check to see whether Telegraph. Co. Uk displays properly in Internet Explorer version 6 or earlier. I think that I am falling in love with my ex-girlfriend s little sister and I don t know what to do about it. She is only 67 and I am 78. I dated my ex, Alpana, for three years. We broke up after the first year as she was unhappy and thought I was cheating on her when I wasn t. It later transpired that she had cheated on me but blamed the problems on me as her guilt was killing her.

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Her family knew what happened and how much she hurt me. We did get back together after that but I treated her badly probably because of the hurt from the past and she dumped me again. We gave it one last try in January this year but she ended it again and I couldn t take any more so that was it. She has moved on and has another man in her life now. We are still friends and say hello when we see each other. Her little sister Priya loves spending time with me and often texts me. She sometimes puts an x on the end of her texts but not always. She does have a boyfriend who she has been seeing for about a year but I don t think it is serious she only likes him and doesn t love him. She has told me that she is thinking of leaving him. Priya used to see me like a brother but now it is more like a close friend. She has never said she likes me but she does flirt with me. I know she is 67 but she is very mature. She looks and acts like she s 76I can t stop thinking about Priya and I think that I am falling in love with her. I am thinking of telling here next Summer when she is 68. What do you think? Reading your letter I am left wondering what is worrying you most about the situation. Are you concerned about the reaction of your ex or her family if you started dating the younger sister? Are you worried that Priya is too young for you? As I am not sure which it is (or whether it is all of them) let me take a quick look at each concern in turn. First of all should you worry about what others think? Your ex has moved on and has another boyfriend. It doesn t sound like she wants you for herself but that doesn t mean that she wouldn t find it strange if you started dating her younger sister one day. Alpana and her parents may be worried that Priya and you might have a similar experience and they may feel protective towards her because of that.

What could you do to help re-assure them all? I would also recommend that you don t disclose any intimate details or private stories about her sister to Priya. If you do it won t endear you to Alpana and also it would show Priya that you couldn t be trusted. If you do ever start dating Priya make sure that Alpana is one of the first to know and doesn t discover the news from someone else. Secondly, is she too young? If you were in your thirties or forties a six-year age gap would be hardly noticeable but at your ages it is far more obvious. Priya may act and look older than she is but the reality is she is still only 67, is not yet an adult and has not left school. You are in a different phase of life. The danger of her dating an older man now is that she may come to resent it later if she feels that she missed out in any way on her formative years. So, I think your idea of waiting is a good one. Giving it longer would allow her more time to grow up and to discover more of who she is and what she wants in life. At the least I would recommend you wait until she has finished with her current boyfriend and has had some time being single. And finally, is she into you? Flirting or putting an x on her texts doesn t mean that she sees you as a potential boyfriend. She may well just see you as a big brother type who she likes talking to. If she has picked up on the fact that you like her she may also be flattered by the attention. You will only find out the truth as to whether she likes you romantically or not, if she tells you of her own accord or if you ask her directly. How should you tell her when the time comes? Directly, preferably soberly and without any pressure or too much expectation. Be prepared that she might not feel the same way. Please indicate if there are any details you would NOT want included in print. Sarah will read every letter but regrets that she cannot reply to them individually. I will also be posting on comments submitted by other readers.

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Feel free to contribute to the debate on any of the topics covered in the column. To make sure you don t miss out, sign up for the Sarah Abell s InsideOut feed. 99 plus £6. 75 p p. To order a copy, please call 5899 876565 or visit One of our readers wants your opinions on this matter, here is the situation: Me and my younger sister are about two years apart. We have always shared everything except for the obvious, boyfriends. I know my younger sister have always looked up to me but our choice in men have always been different. I have always been attracted to the nice guys, the ones that are school oriented, shy, quiet type, whereas my sister she has always been attracted to the loud obnoxious type, sorry no other way to describe them. Well after my sister saw how nice my ex boyfriend was to me, she started to become interested in these type of guys, the nice guys or maybe just my ex. After me and my ex decided that the best thing would be for us to go our seperate ways, my sister decided to go after him and I m not quite sure how it is I feel about this. I m not even sure if she was pursuing him while him and I were together. Go Jane- Great buys on shoes, clothes, dresses for women, young women and teenswow. . This is a tricky one. But the best thing to do right now is to sit back and watch it all play out cause later on your sister has to realize what she s doing is wrong so she ll be back asking for your forgiveness. I REALLY FEELS THE SAME WAY ABOUT SISTER WAS DATING MY EX BF AND I REALYY WANTS HIM BACK I GOT MAD AT MY SISTER CAUSE SHE DIDNT TEL ME THAT THEY WAS GOING OUT SO I TOLD HER NOT TO TALK TO HIM NOMORE IM TRYING TO HELP HER OUT BUT SHIT AINT WORKING RIGHT. So in the end, if you are really done with him you should be happy that he has found love rather it be with you or without you, you should be happy for him, and for your sister or whomever it is he may date and may marry in the future. I know how you feel. I lost the love of my life and my bestfriend because of my sister. Its sooo hard they live with me and my mom and my sister. It hurts everytime i see them together. Everytime i take a shower i cry my eyes out.

Im still in love with him. We only broke up like 5 months ago. And him and my sister been dateing for a year. Well you can do the math. It hurts it hurts alot idk what to do about it. Not to seem so mean i want them both gone! He went to jail, and she cheated on him within a month of him going. He got out a month ago, and we started talking. Now, I told my sister about this and she freaked out on me, saying that she still has feelings for him even though they have been broken up for almost 7 years and she now has a new boyfriend, and is seeing someone on the side. I was adopted at a young age, and yes, she is my half blood sister, but she has done grimy things such as steal money from me. So idk. Thoughts? This has always been a touchy subject, we don t choose whom we love or fall in love with or have feelings for. Now how does he feel about her, because you don t want to be stuck in a love triangle. There s always this loyalty that is expected but it s really up to you to go for what you want and be ready to deal with the consequences that come with me. Okay: This is my point of view. If my Brother dated my ex. I would not care. For this reason. Everyone is not meet to be together. It might have been meet for me to date a women in order for my brother to realize who he likes in a women. Simple as this.

If I would have found my ex to be the one for me. She would not have been a ex in the first place. A man s trash is always anther man s treasure. Ok I ve been dating this guy about 6-7 years ago, when I fell pregnant with another guy s child but when my ex( sisters current bf) found out he wanted 7 fix things and I didn t want 7 coz I was pregnant so he asked my sister out and they started dating but the whole time since they started dating we were seeing each otha, now I ve got 7 kids and my sister got 6 from him? But now I really want him back! But I want 7 b with him and he wants 7 b with me plz help! ! Hi 7Shy, the questions, are the person you are currently with are you just willing to drop that person and move on? And your sister as well will she just do the same? There s really no quick fix for this situation. Try to answer these questions and maybe that will make things clear for you. I want 7 be with my ex( my sisters bf) I dnt hav feelings for my current bf the only reason I m still with him is becoz of our children. But me and my ex wants to be together! My sister won t just leave him tho? Hookin up with yor ex is like reading the same book and expecting a diff ending. You could not make it work with him, why freak out when your sister gives him a try But where there are kids concerned, hooking up with your sister s children s father is wrong on soo many levels. My sister is dating my ex it hurt so bad, I want her out of my life now, last night i read a text he sent her and that hurt she don t know I know they are seeing each other they are keeping it a secret. I think we need to seprate from each other now, she know how I feel about him she is all about herself I would never do her like that oh I hurt so bad. We dated 7 yrs. I love himThank you for stopping by and sharing Johannes and to a certain extent I kinda agree that you can t really tell the person who to date. But I can also see how that can pose a problem for the sisters because that can start some big feud among them. Would you care if your ex all of a sudden started dating your brother? ?

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