Question: I just wanted to say thanks for all the advice, it is truly a great help. I feel like my ex is warming up to me but he has not directly said anything to suggest he wants me back nor has the conversation on the break-up come up yet. He obviously knows I want him back. Are there some tell tale signs that say an ex is becoming interested again? Yangki’s Answer: I agree with you that there is very little to suggest that he actually wants to get back together with you. However, as you’ve experienced, these things move progressively over time.
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Tomorrow things could change, who knows. Some of the signs that show that he/she is becoming interested include: Your conversations go from random contacts to communicating regularly over a period of time. It does not mean your ex wants you back, it just means they are comfortable having you in their daily life. Your conversations go from surface-level topics (how are you? How s your day? , how s work? Etc) to personal topics that include your lives, the people and things you both care about, everyday life or future plans or information they previously did not share with you. If you’re the one who has been initiating contact, your ex starting to initiate contact (regularly) is a good sign that they are warming up to you and taking responsibility for keeping communication going. Your ex is asking questions about how you are spending your time and/or if you are dating someone else. They are trying to figure out if you are still available and/or if you re still interested in them. This is sign only applies if things have been quite tense in the past.
It means that things have moved to a more emotionally safe zone. It does mean interest if either of you is a natural tease or flirt, and if one or both of you see sex as the goal of the teasing/flirting. Again it does not mean you’re back together, it just means you’re both comfortable being in each other’s personal space. The amount and degree of physical contact in some instances suggests a level of comfort with each other. This however is a little tricky as ex-sex can be very tempting even for people who have no intention whatsoever of ever getting back together. So don’t just assume because someone is getting all “hot for you” that he (or she) is emotionally warming up to you as well. Another sign (probably the most telling of all) is the tone, content, depth and emotion in your conversations. I am not talking about the emotions or feelings about how they feel about you or getting back together. The emotions is letting you on their joys, upsets, frustrations, stress, confusion, etc on things happening in their lives or people they care about. This is a sign that they feel emotionally safe around you. Feeling emotionally safe with you is a pre-requisite for getting back together. Listen for words like “remain friends”, “I don t want us to hate each other”, “whatever happens”, “I only wish the best for you, “You’re a special guy/woman, any person would be lucky to have you”, etc.
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These are words common with exs who want to remain “friendly” but not looking to get back together and those looking for closure and getting ready to move on. It’s not always the case, but more often than not. They mention things that suggest that you will be in contact or in each other s lives for a while. It doesn t mean they are necessarily thinking of getting back together, but that they are not planning on cutting you off anytime soon. They may be leaving the door open for the possibility that they may change their mind as time goes on. All this said, always remember until you’ve had the “let’s get back together” talk, you’re officially not back together. Interest is just that interest. Take it slowly and see where it leads. Do not worry whether or not he is responding in time. Just make sure you’re not repeating past mistakes but creating new pleasant memories. It makes no sense trying to rebuild on a weak/faulty foundation however beautiful, and nice and cozy the inside was. But most importantly, keep working on yourself.
The more centered, confident and positive your vibe the more relaxed and attractive you’re to him. The less confident (and insecure) you feel, the more fearful you’ll be and will feel the need to control things which in turn will make him not feel like coming back. He felt neglected and taken for granted and I blamed him for ending things rather than working on us. Reading your articles and book, I realized that he did not make a mistake breaking up with me, he had very good reasons for doing so. I have been showing him I care about him enough to be willing to change. In the last month we have become closer. We even hang out 7-8 times a week and having dinner tomorrow night. I just wanted to say, thank you for being the wise and compassionate teacher that you are. I recently started talking to my ex again after 8 months. It started out innocent, I reached out to him because i heard he lost his mother. He responded right away and we sent texts for two weeks before we eventually decided to meet in person. There were obviously feelings still there because we flirted with each other and reminisced.
He has initiated contact a few times now and we plan to go out again. What do you think, interest or My questions is, is there interest or is it too early to tell for my situation? Sometimes people who still have feelings for each other when they meet up again after a long time tend move a little too fast then things abruptly stop once the excitement of coming together again wears off. See what happens in the next few weeks if things continue to progress. My ex and I recently started communicating again. We ve mostly talked about our lives and mutual friends. The other day he said something about how we used to love going to this coffee place. Could it be that he wants me back? It s been 8 months since he broke up with me. You’d have to see a lot more “interest’ than this to conclude he wants you back. . And Those Who Aspire To BE!