At this point, everyone knows about online dating. If you haven’t tried it, probably many of your friends have. I used it back in my single days and found it very effective for reaching out to many people who I wouldn’t have otherwise been able to contact or interact with. However, a lot of people aren’t using online dating to their best benefit. One of my recent female clients had only two pictures up, and both were professional shots. This is a huge red flag to men. It suggests that this is the best she could possibly look, and, in fact, she might be much less attractive. Also, it conveys that she doesn’t have friends, doesn’t do anything, and isn’t active.
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It doesn’t necessarily mean any of these things, but that’s the perception it can give. And online dating is all about perception at the beginning. Now, remember, advice is not one size fits all. What works for one may not work for another, so experiment and find out what works best for you. Growing up, my mother used to teach etiquette classes, so I grew up knowing which fork to use when, how to be chivalrous, and how best to communicate your ideas.
While I may have rolled my eyes about this as a teenager (who didn’t? ! ), it’s so nice to be able to have a good base of etiquette and manners. That doesn’t mean I use them all the time, but at least I know what they are. Online dating, like anything else, has some etiquette rules everyone should follow.
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It always amazes me how much people willingly. I’m not talking about anonymous trolls — I’m talking about how you represent yourself. Listen, I have no problem if you want to add 6 inch or subtract five pounds. That’s called a white lie. But, if the profiles I read are any indication, EVERYONE seems to be “a world-class traveler who’s happy chilling at home on a Friday or hitting the town, loves to explore ethnic restaurants, and enjoys outside activities like hiking, kayaking, or biking.
” And then when you go on a date, they’d rather Netflix and chill, or they enjoy sleeping in on a Saturday and lounging around eating pizza. You want to make a good first impression, but you don’t want to mispresent yourself. All of these choices are OK. It’s just that you don’t want to misrepresent yourself. We’re all saying these things because we think that’s what others want to hear, but the more you disguise yourself, the less chance you have of finding someone who’s totally into what you are into.
Author Laura Zinn opines, and I agree, “Be exactly who you are, though this means you’ll get rejected. ” That is, until the person who loves everything about you comes along! I know this election, in particular, has been extremely divisive, but this is not the time to start sharing your opinions on politics or any other possibly fiery topics. I have friends who are all over the spectrum. If you draw out a position that is different from yours right off the bat, you might completely discount the person.
However, if you spent some time getting to know them and have built a foundation of mutual respect and, hopefully, interest, then you can start to share more controversial topics. On every topic that exists, I have some friends on one side and some on another.