On the sidebar where my “Personality Snapshot” is broken down in further detail, a section called “Chat-Up Advice” advises, “Do your best to avoid being negative. Get to the point quickly and don’t waste their time. They may get impatient if you’re moving too slowly. ” I’m a catch. Instead, it’s paired with the language processing company to compute the compatibility between me and its user base using the contents of our Twitter feeds. Is this good matchmaking or a gimmick? As a sex-crazed neurotic, I think you know where I stand. Dating apps promise to connect us with people we’re supposed to be with—momentarily, or more—allegedly better than we know ourselves.
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Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn’t. But as machine learning algorithms become more accurate and accessible than ever, dating companies will be able to learn more precisely who we are and who we “should” go on dates with. How we date online is about to change. The future is brutal and we’re halfway there. Today, dating companies fall into two camps: sites like eHarmony, Match, and OkCupid ask users to fill out long personal essays and answer personality questionnaires which they use to pair members by compatibility (though when it comes to predicting attraction, researchers find these surveys ). Profiles like these are rich in information, but they take time to fill out and give daters ample incentive to misrepresent themselves (by asking questions like, “How often do you work out? ” or “Are you messy? ”). Tinder populates profiles with Spotify artists, Facebook friends and likes, and Instagram photos. Instead of matching users by “compatibility, ” these apps work to provide a stream of warm bodies as fast as possible. It’s true that we reveal more of ourselves in Twitter posts, Facebook likes, Instagram photos, and Foursquare check-ins than we realize. We give dating apps access to this data and more: when one journalist from asked Tinder for all the information it had on her, the company sent her a report 855 pages long. Sound creepy?
Maybe. But when I worked as an engineer and data scientist at OkCupid, massive streams of data like these made me drool. In the future, apps like Tinder may be able to infer more about our personalities and lifestyles through our social media activity than an eHarmony questionnaire ever could capture. Researchers already think they can predict from our Foursquare check-ins, whether or not we’re depressed from and, and how intelligent, happy, and likely to use drugs we are from our. One 7568 study from Cambridge University that analyzed the connection between Facebook likes and personality traits found the biggest predictors of intelligence were liking “Science” and “The Colbert Report” (unsurprising) but also “Thunderstorms” and “Curly Fries. ” That connection might defy human logic, but what does that matter if you’re feeding a personality algorithm into a matchmaking algorithm? Because indicators of our personality can be subtle, and we tend not to curate our activity on Facebook as closely as we might a dating profile, perhaps there’s more integrity to this data than what users volunteer in survey questions. “My initial reaction to online dating is that people might present a version that’s unrealistic, ” said Chris Danforth, Flint professor of Mathematical, Natural, and Technical Sciences at the University of Vermont who’s studied the link between Instagram, Twitter, and depression. “But what seems to be revealed every time one of these studies comes out is that it looks to be the case that we reveal more about ourselves than we realize, maybe not as much in solicited surveys but in what we do. Someone’s likes on Facebook could be a better predictor of whether they would get along with someone than survey answers. ”The data could also be used to keep users honest when they’re making their accounts. “I think it would be interesting if OkCupid called you out as you’re filling out your profile, ” said Jen Golbeck, a researcher who studies the intersection of social media and information at the University of Maryland. “It could say something like, ‘I analyzed your likes and it looks like maybe you are a smoker. Are you sure you want to choose that answer? ’” A more jaded dating app could instead alert the person viewing the profile that their match might be lying.
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Companies could use insights from daters’ online behavior to catch red flags and prevent some people from joining in the first place. After the Charlottesville white nationalist rally in August, asked members to report white supremacists and banned them. But in the future, apps could identify sexists/racists/homophobes by their social media activity and preemptively blacklist them from joining. (Maybe this would aid the industry’s problem with, too. EHarmony, for example, rejects applicants who’ve been married four or more times, or, in an ableist twist, those whose survey responses indicate they might be depressed. A dystopian future dating algorithm could flag users who are depressed or suffering from anxiety from their posts, likes or Tweets, and reject them. Algorithms could also use our online behavior to learn the real answers to questions we might lie about in a dating questionnaire. One of OkCupid’s matching questions, for example, asks “Do you work out a lot? ” But, a dating app for sporty people, asks users to link their Fitbits and prove they’re physically active through their step counts. This type of data is harder to fake. Or, rather than ask someone whether they’re more likely to go out or Netflix and chill on a Friday night, a dating app could simply collect this data from our GPS or Foursquare activity and pair equally active users. It’s also possible that computers, with access to more data and processing power than any human, could pick up on patterns human beings miss or can’t even recognize. “When you’re looking through the feed of someone you’re considering, you only have access to their behavior, ” Danforth says. “But an algorithm would have access to the differences between their behavior and a million other people’s. There are instincts that you have looking through someone’s feed that might be difficult to quantify, and there may be other dimension we don’t see… nonlinear combinations which aren’t easy to explain.
”Just as dating algorithms will get better at learning who we are, they’ll also get better at learning who we like—without ever asking our preferences. “Instead of asking questions about individuals, we work purely on their behavior as they navigate through a dating site, ” says Gavin Potter, founder of RecSys, a company whose algorithms power tens of niche dating apps. “Rather than ask someone, ‘What sort of people do you prefer? Ages 55-65? ’ we look at who he’s looking at. If it’s 75-year-old blondes, our system starts recommending him 75-year-old blondes. ” shows that straight male users tend to message women significantly younger than the age they say they’re looking for, so making recommendations based on behavior rather than self-reported preference is likely more accurate. Algorithms that analyze user behavior can also identify subtle, surprising, or hard-to-describe patterns in what we find attractive—the ineffable features that make up one’s “type. ” Or at least, some app makers seem to think so. “If you look at the recommendations we generated for individuals, you’ll see they all reflect the same type of person—all brunettes, blondes, of a certain age, ” Potter says. “There are women in Houston who only want to go out with men with beards or facial hair. We found in China users who like a very, um, demure type of individual. ” This he mentions in a tone which seems to imply a stereotype I’m unaware of. “No questionnaire I’m aware of captures that. ”Naturally, we might not like the patterns computers find in who we’re attracted to.
When I asked Justin Long, founder of the AI dating company Bernie. Ai, what patterns his software found, he wouldn’t tell me: “Regarding what we learned, we had some disturbing results that I do not want to share. They were quite offensive. ” I’d guess the findings were racist: show that even though people say they don’t care about race when choosing a partner, they usually act as if they do. “We just use these apps to find people we’re interested in, without thinking. I don’t think the apps are necessarily leaking this in a way that would damage my reputation—they’re probably using it to make better matches—but if I wish I didn’t have those biases, then maybe I don’t want them to use that. ”Even if dating companies aren’t using our data to damage our reputations, they might be using it to make money. ” An advertiser could learn what products we find subconsciously sexy—literally—and show us targeted ads. This was the thought Canadian engineer Justin Long had when he built a “personal matchmaker assistant” called. If the AI encountered a mutual match, it would start a conversation with the opening line, “Do you like avocados? ”Tinder eventually forced Long to cease operation, but Long thinks personal dating assistants like Bernie are the future of dating tech. Then, “my Bernie will talk to your Bernie, ” says Long, and organize dates automatically. When algorithms are so good that we trust their decisions, perhaps we won’t mind giving them more control of our love lives.
Today, dating apps don’t (openly) mine our digital data as nearly much as they could. Maybe they think we’d find it too creepy, or maybe we wouldn’t like what they learned about it. But if data mining were the key to the end of the bad date, would n’t it be worth it?