You re not alone. This type of question has been sent to me hundreds of times and I want to write about this to help you and everyone with this type of situation. Actually, A New Mode s is only part of my business I also help guys with their dating questions. And believe it or not, I had a guy send me virtually this same question in hopes that I would discuss it at a speaking engagement. To answer your question, I want to quickly tell you what I cover in this article: Also, I highly recommend you take the following quiz to see why he s not texting you back. I also put a link to another quiz at the end of this article about how to understand your guy s texting style, so I recommend you take that one too. Over the course of the last decade and a half, texting has increasingly become a constant part of waking life.
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For most people these days, it s tough to imagine waiting for something or sitting idle without checking your texts, social media, etc. He might be focused on something and have his phone off. Or, yes of course, he might not be all that into you in the first place and be fading away. And if so, do yourself a favor and let him go there are plenty of signs a guy isn t into you and it s a fruitless venture to think you re going to convince him he should be. So just to get that out of the way:
When a guy likes you, it s obvious. No analysis or detective work needed and you don t need to put in effort for a guy who s into you to remain in contact with you. So if that s happening, you re probably looking at a guy who isn t all that into you at which point I would recommend you would cut things now and meet someone new. This is a slight tangent, but the vast majority of the problems we have with dating in our culture is how we view dating. Currently, the western world views dating as a process of impressing the other person.
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Which is foolish on two fronts: first it implies that the time to be impressive is only at the beginning and second it implies that another person should select you because you impressed them (and that you should select them because you found them impressive). The problem with this is that it fixates on you and the guy putting on a sort of performance for each other and an unsustainable one at that, in most case. Dating is not meant to be about impressing another person or being impressed. So to tie this tangent up letting a guy go who is already showing signs that he s not that into you early on well, you could be saving yourself a ton of time and heartache.
I m not saying that there aren t those rare cases where some disinterested guy inexplicably changes his tune and comes around it can happen in the same way a person could win the lottery or a tree could be struck by lightning but the odds are bad. The odds are much higher you ll waste a ton of time, youth and heart on chasing a guy who isn t interested, when you could be spending it with a guy who wants exactly what you want with you right now! So let s return to the subject at hand if a guy has stopped texting you all of a sudden, and it s a guy you ve been seeing for longer than, let s say, 7 weeks Sooner or later, this kind of thing is going to happen and now is as good a time as any to become comfortable with the idea of giving a guy space. The best way to think of text messages is this: If you he tells you, specifically, he s going to text you at a specific time for a specific reason, then it makes sense to expect him to do what he told you he s going to do.
After all, he explicitly said he would! Outside of that, texting (in the view of most men) is an interruption to whatever we re doing at that moment. Now there might be those moments where you catch a guy in a chatty mood, but those are best viewed as the exception to the norm, not something to be expected. If you don t have the expectation the men should text a lot or that men want to text a lot, you ll save yourself a lot of grief wanting something that, for the most part, goes against a man s nature. It is infinitely better than text messages, there s no room for misinterpretation or miscommunication like there is in the limited medium of texting and it takes the pressure off both of you.
And if you need something urgently and immediately, call him. Don t text.