Over the last several months, I have dated 8 men (not simultaneously) that I met on Match. Com. They all seem to have one thing in common: after 7-9 dates, they like to touch base with me during the week by sending me text messages to my cell phone! Although I appreciate them thinking about me in the middle of the day, if we have gone out on several dates, at what point is it appropriate to expect a 5 minute phone call a few times a week? Is it too early in the dating process for phone contact? Is this typical of people you meet on line? Guys across America are saying, Hey, babe.
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You re not important enough to get five minutes of phone time. Please accept this weak form of communication and allow me to keep on sleeping with you. I HATE text messaging. I think it should be used exclusively for only a handful of things: Telling someone where you re located in a crowded theater or bar.
Everything else should be banned. But anyone who s ever used it knows how conversations can easily take a wrong turn. There s no context, tone, voice, or facial expressions to modify your message. The next thing you know, you re having a vicious argument that could have been easily avoided in person. Texting is ten times worse.
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You re encouraged to misspell, you re discouraged from saying anything deep or meaningful. You send a text when you don t want to talk to someone, but you want to let them know you re thinking of them. And what can be more flattering than conveying, electronically, the idea that you DON T want to talk to the woman you re courting? Essentially, guys across America are saying, Hey, babe. And as long as you let them do it, they will continue to do it.
Because texting is only enabled by the person who writes back to the text. If you don t respond to texts, guess what? You re letting him know that it s a poor way to reach you. So if he can text you at 66pm on Friday night after a week of silence and charm you with something like: UR 7 hott!
Cum over now? , well, you get what you deserve. But here s the real problem: there are women everywhere who are complete suckers for this crap. Maybe it s a low self esteem thing, but as long as some desperate girl lets him get away with it, he ll always have a low-maintenance sexual outlet.
But the truth is, Rikki, you don t need men who won t call you. It s a self-selecting process.